Shame - A Different Approach

07apr19:0022:00Shame - A Different ApproachLGBTQIA+ & FRIENDSEvent OverVirtual Event19:00 - 22:00 FacilitatorBarkas & AddieCategoryshibari


(Thursday) 19:00 - 22:00





Event Details


Shame, for many, is a constant shadow, a companion that seems to hold the power for great pain as well as for great pleasure. Shame is also used in a vast discourse of understanding cultural differences and even to describe entire societies. And shame is often treated like yet another mere tool for kink play, like an object or even a fetish.

In this workshop, Barkas and Addie deconstruct the various concepts of shame and “recycle” them for rope bondage. With a new understanding of the terminology, we will take shame and use it to approach intimacy and identity a little bit differently.


Event Details

Date & Time:  April 7th, 2022,  7pm-10pm CET (Berlin time)

Format: workshop (virtual)


Language: English

Minimum Knowledge Level: Single column tie

What to Bring:  if you want to tie along you need ropes, safety gear, space, a partner

Solo or Partnered:  both (each participant needs a ticket)

Class recording: Yes. The recording will be made available after the live class for 14 days.


What we teach:

* shame – guilt; what’s the difference if there is one?
* The two poles of shame; the directionality of shame.
* Uncovering and covering; how etymology can be used in a rope scene.
* Put in place; the position of shame.
* Shame in Yukimura Ryu.
* Who is ashamed?; the connection between shame and identity.
* Shameless; being ashamed of shame and how to play with that.
* Discussion


Who is this event for?

LGBTQIA+ describes the full spectrum of non-mainstream sexual orientation and/or gender identity, meaning: lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, non-binary, genderqueer/fluid, queer, intersex, asexual, aromantic, agender.

Friends describes people of any and all kinds of gender and sexual identities who are aware and respectful of the necessity, needs, and boundaries of a queer safe(r) space and its marginalized community.

When you consider yourself a friend you show acknowledgement to and are respectful of everyone’s self-expression and do not assume, presume or project non-consensual ideas onto others. You actively request and use people’s chosen pronouns. You remain mindful of the fact that Karada House is first and foremost a space for queer people that you are also invited to attend. You have a genuine concern for the well-being of LGBTQIA+ people and remain in awareness of heterosexual and gender straight privileges.

Friends don’t have to be perfect. None of us are. We request that we all pro-actively work and strive to be good friends and allies to marginalized people.

If you cannot afford the ticket price (even the solidarity price), please send us a message. We will find a way.



Barkas & Addie

Barkas and Addie are Vancouver-based rope educators who teach and perform world-wide. Their style is characterized by a focus on the process, interaction, and emotion of a rope scene. Together they run TheSpace2, Vancouver’s first dedicated rope space. Barkas is a bondage artist and writer. They have developed the “Interview Metaphor” as a way of understanding rope bondage and placing focus on the person in ropes, “Ranboo” which is a highly dynamic and stormy way of doing and thinking Kinbaku, as well as the “City of Kinbaku”, a poetics of Kinbaku. Addie is a switch and self-suspension enthusiast. She organizes regular workshops on dynamic self-suspension and versatile education both, for beginners and technically advanced. When co- teaching she focuses on bottoming information and discourse.

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