Can we just be real about the very real uncertainty and vulnerability that comes with holding space for someone else?! This is a class for anyone feeling unsure, anxious, or like they just keep fumbling their way through topping and not finding their flow- let’s build more confidence by exploring ideas and trying tools and tips to tap into more ease and fun in ways that feel simple and true to you
This session will cover:
– Ways to begin and ways to end: building rituals and soft structures to hold yourself and your scenes
– Finding and playing with your unique sense of presence, authority and top space in ways that feel good and authentic to you
– What to do when your mind goes blank, anxiety kicks in, or you forget what comes next
– Shifting out of the default – ideas to expand your range if you get stuck doing the same thing or keep reverting to your comfort zone (but need more options!)
– Is it ok? Is it safe? What if I fuck up!? Experimenting with confident ways to check in (and what to do when things aren’t going to plan)
– Exercises to explore your pleasure – What do you want? What do you enjoy? Balancing your wants and needs as a top if you often find yourself oriented towards your partners wants and needs.
Event Details
Date & Time: July 24th, 2025, 8 pm-10 pm CET (Berlin time)
Format: workshop (virtual)
Audience: LGBTQIA+ & FRIENDS
Language: English
Minimum Knowledge Level: Basic rope skills of single column ties and frictions will help you with this workshop – but you can still be inspired if you are a total beginner
What to Bring: Rope if you want to try stuff. A partner if you want to try stuff. Your questions and anxieties.
Solo or Partnered: all constellations welcome (everyone needs a ticket)
Class recording: Yes. The recording will be made available after the live class for 14 days.
Accessibility Note
The workshop and discussion are held in spoken English with automated captions in English which are provided by Zoom. Communication within the class can be had via chat but also people can come on mic and speak. If you participate in this workshop and need more assistance, i.e. someone reading out the chat, etc, please message us at info@karada-house.de beforehand.
Who is this event for?
LGBTQIA+ describes the full spectrum of non-mainstream sexual orientation and/or gender identity, meaning: lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, non-binary, genderqueer/fluid, queer, intersex, asexual, aromantic, agender.
Friends describes people of any and all kinds of gender and sexual identities who are aware and respectful of the necessity, needs, and boundaries of a queer safe(r) space and its marginalized community.
When you consider yourself a friend you show acknowledgement to and are respectful of everyone’s self-expression and do not assume, presume or project non-consensual ideas onto others. You actively request and use people’s chosen pronouns. You remain mindful of the fact that Karada House is first and foremost a space for queer people that you are also invited to attend. You have a genuine concern for the well-being of LGBTQIA+ people and remain in awareness of heterosexual and gender straight privileges.
Friends don’t have to be perfect. None of us are. We request that we all pro-actively work and strive to be good friends and allies to marginalized people.
What else to know
Before purchasing a solidarity ticket, please check here if you are eligible for one. For this particular session sex workers are explicitly invited to get a solidarity ticket.
