It’s that Christmas-shmistmas and for many of us this is a complicated time. That is why we are opening our house so you can come by, relax and calm down amongst other queer people.
Welcome to Cuddles, Cakes and Kinks, your monthly aftercare event to take a break from cisheteropatriarchy, capitalism, the burning world, or life in general. We’re here to rest so we can resist, to play as an antidote to pressure, and to let the people eat cake.
We are opening our wonderful house for the evening so you can come by, relax, and calm down amongst other queer people. There will be hammocks and little areas for cuddling and enjoying touch. Get or give massages. Do some soft, slow kink. Or hang out in the kitchen with us and just chat. We will be baking a bunch of cakes and there will be coffee, tea, and snacks to nourish your bodies and souls.
Light and slow kink interactions are welcome. Anything that allows you to come back to yourself and into connection with others in a soft and nice way. This is not a play party or sex club, but a playful community event. The vibe is cozy, and we don’t do genital play.
There is a separate cuddle room that is completely free from any kind of play, horny vibes, and nudity. It’s for cuddles, naps, quiet conversation, maybe reading a book.
What does LIGHT and SLOW mean?
It means calming things down, doing them slowly and intentionally, with consent and good boundaries in place. It means being in community with intention, not just intensity. It means playing in a space that is semi-private but shared. It means enjoying the energy of others being in the same space and seeking flow with each other across the room.
We are open and happy about what you bring as long as you do not dominate the entire room with the noise, space you need, or vibe. This is a shared experience so please read the room and give others space as well.
Imagine you’re doing kink for the first time – things are moving slow and shy. Maybe a spank there, a pull of the hair there, a bit of giggling, a soft smooch on the lips, a drip off a candle, a bite on the neck, playing cats for a while, wrists that are tied, a teasing run of rope across the chest.
If you want it wild, hard, and horny, come to Wild Unicorns instead!
Due to hygiene, trigger potential, and the vibe of the event, we do not allow:
– sideline wanking
– full nudity outside the play area (big room)
– blood, pee, scat play
– knife play, needle play
– uniforms and/or role play that includes institutional power dynamics (i.e. school, military, police, bürgeramt…)
Dress code
Soft and cozy (onesies, lounge wear, leggings, pajamas, flower dresses, hoodies…) or if you’re in the mood to dress up, you can flag queer like you’re going to pride (fabulous outfits, jeans shorts with pocket kerchiefs, leather daddies, muscle mommies, rainbow makeup…)
What’s the space like?
kitchen and hang-out area with cake, snacks, tea, coffee, stim toys, and an introvert’s corner.
large room with mats, cushions, blankets, suspension points, hammocks, and nice music.
mezzanine with a massage table, floor massage spot, and massage oil.
cuddle space with soft mattresses, pillows, blankets, dim lights, and soft music.
quiet garden in the summer for touching grass and enjoying the breeze.
How it works
The door opens at 5:00 pm and stays open until 7:00 pm (sharp).
You will need to purchase a ticket upfront as space is limited.
At 5:30 pm we will give an introduction to people who are new to the space and want to meet others. If you come later, you will still go through an introduction to the rules, space, and event at arrival.
You can then choose your space and mode (talk, cuddle, sleep, eat cake, light play) and enjoy yourself.
What to bring
Yourself and maybe things you like to share with others.
Please bring a blanket or towel to put on the yoga mats we provide.
What else to know
This event is aimed at LGBTQIA+ audiences.
This space is a sober space. Please do not bring any substances to the spaces or enter the space under the influence.
Nudity is welcome in the play area.
Bathrooms and showers are available.
Rules of Engagement
- Cuddles, cakes and kinks is a playful community event for LGBTQIA+ people. This is not a play party or sex club. We are here to connect and rest. You can cuddle, chat, read a book, eat cake, do some light and slow BDSM, exchange massages, or even make out. The dress code is soft and cozy or flagging queer.
- Light and slow means that you are mindful of how loud you are, how much space you take, and try to be in harmony with the rest of the room. Think cozy, consensual and cute, not intense and overwhelming.
- This is a sober event. Please do not bring any substances to the space or enter under the influence.
- The play space is for light and slow kink play. If you want to watch, sit on one of the seats. You can be nude in the designated areas if you keep a towel under your butt. No sideline wanking, scat, piss, sharps, or uniforms/roleplay based on institutional power. Disinfect your spot after using, and bring textiles to wash if you got bodily fluids on them (like sweaty butt or drool).
- The mezzanine in the play space is for massage. Wipe off hands and feet afterwards if you use oil, and bring socks to wear.
- The cuddle space (back room or garden terrace) is for cuddles, naps, and light conversation. No nudity, play, or horny vibes. Ask before joining the cuddle puddle.
- The kitchen area is for eating cake, drinking tea, and chatting. It’s free from play and nudity. Ask the space holders if you want a coffee. Ask us if you need sugar or gluten free options. We appreciate donations for the buffet. There’s a stim toy box.
- The mezzanine in the kitchen is for retreating and resting, leave people alone if they are up there.
- Smoking only in the smoking area in the garden, next to the gate.
- Be soft and slow, respect others and give them space. Collaborate in creating a safe and gentle mood. You get gratitude and imaginary points for helping us clean the space afterwards.
Accessibility Note
The space, KARA, is on the ground floor but has three steps to enter the house. A ramp for wheelchairs is available at all times. There is also a parking space available right in front of the door if needed. KARA has an accessible bathroom available. There are no thresholds in the entire house. The garden is only partially accessible at the moment. During the workshop, we will sit on the floor. Sitting in a chair can also be provided. Adaptations for physical needs will be shown and can also be provided upon request. If you participate in this workshop and need more assistance please message us at info@karada-house.de beforehand.
Safety Concept & Regulation
Please consult our safety concept and regulations for this event here.