Art of Connection - Shame (Queers & Womxn)

08dec11:0018:00Art of Connection - Shame (Queers & Womxn)Event Over11:00 - 18:00 FacilitatorEmma SteelCategorykink


(Sunday) 11:00 - 18:00



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Your own shame

Everyone knows shame, even little children.
Shame is, much like anger, an emotional state that most of us try to avoid at all cost.
Some of us love it in play – and use shame and embarrassment consciously for erotic stimulation and role play.

It can be both very uncomfortable and very lusty – but it is always obviously palpable.
Shame is sumptuous.
It protects our innermost core, our dignity and our integrity.

To celebrate shame, to bathe in it, can be highly erotic. And, it can be very satisfying to do this to someone who craves it, and truly lose yourself in the pleasure of it all.

In the first part of the workshop, we will examine our own experiences with shame and embarrassment through conversations and body and breath exercises.

Negotiation, Safety and Aftercare

In the second part, we focus on Negotiation, Safety and Aftercare.

Whoever shames or humiliates others in the play, will sooner or later come up against their own inner beast… What does it take to be a real asshole, while still caring for oneself and the bottom? What does proper aftercare entail?

Shaming others, and allowing oneself to be shamed: Play and exercises dealing with humiliation

Whoever wishes to be humiliated, needs intention.
This is not meant as intellectual bullshitting or exaggerated psychoanalysis, rather as a heartfelt desire behind the request of ‘interrogate and rough me up’ or ‘make me blush’. Maybe it’s actually ‘I want an intense orgasm’ or ‘I want to be rid of my ego for a while’, or ‘I want to know what it’s like to feel shame on my own terms, rather than being exposed to it unexpectedly’.

Various scenarios and role play options will be suggested and discussed, and if desired, can be tried in short play scenarios . Who does not wish to participate, may use this time instead for planning of humiliation scenarios.

In order to create a trusting atmosphere where tops, bottoms and switches can have exchange on their own terms there is often the possibility to divide up into smaller groups. Sensitivity around all kinds of differences and positionings on all levels is expected of participants.


Emma Steel

Emma Steel is interested in communication experiments that break conventions, in humour and in how we can become closer to our own inner biests while remaining professional or true to who you want to be. In her workshops she finds it important for everyone to make mistakes and ask stupid questions, thereby making communal learning possible.

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